Happy 14th Birthday

Dear Alex, 

Today you turn 14. You are halfway through your last year of middle school. This has been a year of change for both of us. You are growing taller and your braces came off this fall. You want more independence, and as your mom I am trying to navigate the waters of raising a teenager. This is all new to both of us, and for the first time since you were a toddler I find myself in a power struggle with you.  You want to do what you want to do, and I’m just not ready to give up guiding you whether you want it or not. I know (because I am your mother) that although you are moving towards independence, you still need me. And I am trying my best to find that delicate  balance of giving you space while at the same time giving you the guidance you need to continue to grow into the man we both know you can and will become. 

And although these changes are hard sometimes, I know you have a good head on your shoulders and a wise brain in your head. You have a strong moral compass that will keep your headed in the right direction. You have made some mistakes and will make some more. And I know there are going to be times that you have to learn your lessons the hard way. It’s going to be difficult for me to stand back and watch you fall down. I have to trust we have taught you well, and believe that you will stand back up, brush yourself off, and continue to move forward with your head held high. I hope that even though you are seeking independence right now, you know that I am right here when you need me. 

More than anything, I love the times when you talk to me about things going on in your life. Sometimes you tell me about a struggle you are having, and other times you tell me about the funny antics of your friends. You don’t always want my advice. Sometimes you just want me to hear you. I do. And I will always be here to listen, to be your sounding board. Your rock. 

You make us proud everyday. You continue to be a team player on the field, the course, the court and the classroom. Your teachers say you are insightful, bright, and a deep thinker. Your cross country coach says you are a leader who always has a positive attitude. 

Fourteen years ago today, you made me a mom. You are the first of my three greatest blessings. Year after year you prove to be a loyal and wonderful son, brother, cousin, grandson, nephew and friend. Our family is lucky to call you our Alexander, our Alley Cat, our Alexis. I thank God everyday that your middle school days are  happy ones thanks to your friends who appreciate your sense of humor and your trueness. They are lucky to have you as a friend! But I am the most blessed of all, because I am the one you call “Mom.” 

Happy, happy birthday!!! 

I love you so much,

Mom

HAPPY 11th to IZZY!!

Dear Izzy, 

Happy 11th birthday! As always, we had so much fun over the weekend celebrating YOU! You had a Mystery Party sleepover with your besties. You are so very blessed with the sweetest friends. On Sunday, we had family brunch with all your favorite foods - Trader Joe cinnamon buns, chocolate chip croissants, and red velvet cupcakes. It was a beautiful day just for you, my beautiful girl. Your birthday is always the best way to end summer. 

Speaking of summer, we had a busy one!! We started the summer in Disney World. We traveled to Colorado for the first time where we kayaked, hiked and biked! And we spent most of the summer at the beach-swimming, shopping and spending time with our family. One of my most favorite memories of the summer was the day you and I watched the sun rise over the ocean.

  

And as the fall begins, you are experiencing so many changes in your life. The biggest change is starting a new school. You are now a Bryn Mawr Girl.

You are going to be so successful at Bryn Mawr. I know it is a little scary and different right now, but you, my girl, are the whole package!  You are smart, athletic, conscientious, creative and kind! As I have always told you since you were a tiny girl- you can do it!!!! Anything! Everything! Even learn French (Inside Joke 😜). So go into this new school year with confidence and pride. You were born to be a leader. 

I’m not saying it will always be easy, but remember one thing, when things get tough and you need help, guidance or a reminder of how awesome you are, I am here for you! I am your safe place, your rock. I will always be right here if you need me. 

“Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love you!”  I read this quote and it reminded me of you. Don’t ever change,  because you radiate kindness and goodness and love. People are drawn to your sense of humor and compassion for others.  You have sweet friends because you are sweet and those are the type of people you attract. Your family adores you because of your loyalty and huge heart. This world needs more people like you! 

I am so excited to see all the wonderful adventures this year has in store for you!!! 

Love you - you will always be my best girl. 

Mommy

Happy 7th Birthday!

Dear Zachary, 

My baby. You are seven years old today. A first grader. A basketball player. A lacrosse shooter. A fast swimmer. A book reader. A story writer. A picture drawer. A movie watcher.  A noise maker. A button pusher. A sweet cuddler. 

You make life fun. You love to laugh, especially at your own jokes.  You love to play video games with Alex and Grayson. You love to wrestle with daddy. You love to FaceTime with Stella. You love to create art projects with Izzy. You love to go on walks with me and Millie. 

You started at a new school this year. You love Gilman. You hop out of the car every morning with a smile and a “bye mom.” You are learning so much and making new friends. You love the weeks when your class gets to swim in gym class. You are learning Spanish and right now you are writing a story about animal habitats. You are a rule follower at school. At home, not so much!

Having you in carpool has been quite an adjustment for Alex and me. You talk constantly. Well, more like just hum, sing and make noise. In the afternoon, while we wait for Alex you eat snack and after snack. You are always so hungry after a long day of school. In the evenings, you do homework. You have the neatest handwriting of all of my kids (thank you, Gilman). 

You are the most stubborn child I have ever met. You take strong-willed to a whole other level.  You say words that kids your age shouldn’t say. And I have to threaten to tell your teacher to get you to stop. You seriously never listen to a word we say. Well, that might be a slight exaggeration, but you are definitely not an easy kid. But you definitely are a great kid with a big heart. You always say, “Sometimes I am bad on the outside, but you know I have a good heart on the inside!”  I believe this. I see this. You are fiercely loyal. You are protective of your little cousins. You have no fear, except when it comes to going to bed at night. You still want me to lay with you until you fall asleep. You aren’t a big kid, but you have a big personality. You are a bit of a clown. You love to be the center of attention. You are a bit of a celebrity with Alex and Izzy’s friends. 

You, my baby boy, challenge me like I have never been challenged before. But you are a Momma’s boy through and through. I will never forget the first time I saw you! You stole a piece of my heart. You are never going to give it back. You can have it. I love you so much inside and out... all of you. Always and forever. 

Mommy