Happy 15th Birthday!

 Dear Alex, 

Today you turned 15 years old. You are halfway through freshman year in high school, and as always your work ethic makes me so proud. You were a part of the Cross Country team this fall and you are a Mentor to a lower school boy. You are continuing with your faith journey by preparing for your Confirmation. And your art work amazes me! Dad and I are loving watching you grow from our little boy into a wonderful, talented young man. 

When I held you for the first time as a newborn baby,  I never in a million years dreamed we would be living through a pandemic fifteen years later. This year has been anything but normal. I know it is tough for you and life doesn’t always seem fair right now, but I am proud of the way you are handling the disappointments and canceled plans. You are able to keep things in perspective. You acknowledge that things aren’t always the way we wish they were, but you keep a positive and healthy attitude. And although things are not normal right now, I feel blessed for all the good this year has brought us. We got extra beach time this summer with our cousins and friends. You are such an amazing big brother (most of the time) and I love watching you take care of Christopher. He thinks you are the coolest!  I’ll never forget your “Zoom” Tie Ceremony and 8th grade graduation.  And I feel especially lucky that since September you have been able to go to school in person a few days a week.

You are such a loyal and great friend. Your friends are lucky to have you and they are amazing friends in return. You have the nicest friends, and I believe it is because you get what you give. And for once I am thankful for technology, social media and video games. You have all managed to stay close and laugh and have fun even when you can’t be together in person! I know you’re happiest on the days you get to go to school on campus, but a part of me likes the days when you are home with me. It reminds me of when you were little and it was just the two of us all day. Of course, now you are usually in your room doing school work or sleeping instead of making me watch The Wiggles on repeat! 

At fifteen, on one hand you think you know it all!  But on the other hand, you still come to me to talk and vent. I will always be here for you. Dr. Mo, your high school counselor, said something the other day that really stuck with me. He said that as your parents we should be your safety net not your training wheels. You will make mistakes and you will fall down. It is not our job to stop you, but instead we need to catch you and help you get back up.  Never forget that! Even though I will always see you as my baby, I respect your quest for independence as you navigate your teenage years. 

I love you, My Christmas Baby. Fifteen years ago, all I wanted for Christmas was you! You will always and forever be my best Christmas gift ever.  

I love you with all of my heart! 

Mom

Happy 12th Birthday!

Dear Izzy,

Well. This has been a year we will never forget!  It has been a year of "changes!" Your first school year at Bryn Mawr was off to a great start.  You made new friends and excelled in your classes. You were busy taking dance classes, playing field hockey, and baking, painting and drawing in your free time. You were invited to play on a new lacrosse team and won two fall tournaments. 

We celebrated Halloween and you were the perfect Eleven/Bob Ross 😉. We spent an awesome day in New York City with Kaitlyn and Sarah. It was the perfect Girls' Day of shopping and seeing Beetlejuice on Broadway!

We spent the holidays with family. We baked cookies, decorated the Christmas tree and volunteered at Christmas Eve Mass.  We took an amazing trip to Cayman Islands to celebrate New Year's Eve!  Your basketball team won the CMRC Championship.   

Then, one hundred and seventy-two days ago, schools closed and we were told to stay home and social distance from family. Dance classes and sports were canceled, school was moved online, trips were postponed. But somehow you managed to deal with the disappointments with grace and optimism. You performed dances in the basement and you participated fully in your Zoom classes. Your long awaited class camping trip to Echo Hill was virtual, but that didn't stop you from pitching a tent in the backyard and listening to Ms. Sadler read you a story each evening. Your fable was chosen to be a part of the fifth grade play that was narrated and presented as a slideshow, but you were just as proud of your work as if it had been performed on the stage. You celebrated your friends with birthday parades and stood in Grandma’s yard to wish Stella a Happy Birthday! You completed challenges and races for your lacrosse team.  You welcomed our new puppy, Frankie, into our family. You humored me by working on puzzles and watching cheesy TV shows and 80's movies. You incorporated your love of baking into science class when you made a cell model out of a cake! 

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In June, you graduated from Lower School (virtually, of course) and although things were far from normal, we had an awesome summer. You played lacrosse and swam for the Summer Hill Stingrays. We spent many weeks at the beach.  We enjoyed sunny days breathing in the ocean air and feeling the sand in our toes. We kept our circle of beach chairs six feet apart from others and wore masks when shopping at our favorite surf shops. We had fireworks and a fire pit on the beach. And yesterday, we ended the summer as we always do, with a family brunch on the patio to celebrate YOU!  It may not have been the huge party of years' past, but it was a wonderful day! Today, you were able to go to school for Middle School Orientation. And although, you start Middle School online tomorrow, I know you will make the best of the situation until you can be on campus again. I can always count on you to be the sunshine even on stormy days! 

I love you. You will forever be my best girl.

Mom

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Zachary, 

Happy 8th birthday!!

 8 years. 2,920 days. I can’t believe you have been my baby boy for this long. Sometimes I forget and still think of you as my baby or my toddler or my five-year old. I think it is because you are so attached to me. I know the time is coming when I won’t be the center of your universe. I have lived this first hand with your brother. It will break my heart a little, just like it did with Alex. So I will savor this time. I know in a few short years I will be wishing for the time when you always wanted to hold my hand or wanted me to rub your back to help you sleep. These moments are so special to me, because you are my baby. I know I will never have this time with you again.  

You have tried some new things this year. You gave a memorized speech as George W. Bush in school. We went to Disney World, and you rode all the big roller coasters. In Colorado, you loved to rock climb. You hiked and rode a bike for ten miles. You stood on snow in July!  You snorkeled with Daddy in Turks and Caymans. You played flag football this fall and went to two Ravens games. You still play basketball and lacrosse. And you love to swim in school and in the summer at the pool and the beach. 

You continue challenge me everyday. If nothing else, at least you are consistent. You are stubborn and sometimes you have selective hearing. But you have a big heart and show a lot of empathy towards others. You have made a bunch of new friends, and you and Grayson continue to be best buds.

My wish for you this year is for you to realize just how amazing you are! Have confidence. Work hard. Be brave. Be kind. Try to be a little more patient with yourself and others. And as always and forever, I will love you. I am your mom. Your person. And I will continue to be as long as you need me.  And even longer than that. 

I love you, Mommy